When to Persevere and When to Let Go

Several years ago, as I was mulling over a decision that had been weighing heavily on me, I stumbled across a scripture I’d seen many times. But for some reason, on this occasion, the words took on new meaning that day:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

I had been working on a project, and to be blunt, I dreaded the work. It wasn’t that it was hard. Someone else might have loved it. But I didn’t. It wasn’t purposeful, didn’t lead to a better opportunity, took up a lot of time that could have been better used elsewhere, and didn’t use my strengths well. This combination of facts made it more than just “hard” for me. It was a different feeling: It felt burdensome.

As I ran across the words from the book of Matthew that day during some quiet time, it occurred to me that the things I am divinely called to do in my life may be difficult, but they are not burdensome. “His yoke is easy and His burden is light,” I was reminded. And with that insight, the decision about whether to continue down the path became much easier. Someone else could do it better and more joyfully. I would trust that if it is meant for me to do, the burden would be light – even if the task itself was difficult.

This distinction between “difficult” versus “burdensome” has guided me now for years. And this week, I invite you to take note of the key distinctions between activities that are difficult versus ones that are burdensome:

1. YOU’RE WORKING HARD AND YOU’RE TIRED, BUT DEEP DOWN, YOU’RE ENERGIZED BY THE WORK.

When something is difficult, but you are energized by it, it can be a sign that you are right in the midst of your sweet spot. There is a certain gratification that comes with your purpose. You can give everything you have and yet still have the energy to keep going.

2. YOU FEEL STRETCHED, BUT NOT BROKEN.

Difficult tasks and situations stretch you. They empower you to learn and grow and become more of the person you are meant to be. Growth, by its very definition, expands you into a bigger version of yourself.

3. YOU ARE AT PEACE EVEN IN THE MIDST OF THE CHAOS.

There are seasons of life that are very difficult and even chaotic. You look forward to getting through them, even when you feel uniquely equipped to handle them. Chaos can swirl around you and yet you are calm. You are at peace.

4. THERE IS PURPOSE IN THE PAIN.

Difficult tasks and situations lead to purpose. Burdensome ones distract you from your purpose. Difficult but purposeful situations can transform you, give clarity, strengthen relationships, and mature you so that you are better prepared for the future. They lead you towards your purpose.

5. IT IS WORTH THE EFFORT.

Difficult tasks and situations are purposeful. Burdensome ones are not. If you can see that by persevering, the reward will be worth it, stick with it. Difficulties are about making sacrifices for a greater purpose.

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